Our Executive Matchmakers Ask Are Unrealistic Standards Holding You Back From Love?
As long-time executive matchmakers of an elite dating agency in Southern California, we are no strangers to the familiar phrase “I’m the full package, have no baggage, just real picky and I’m not willing to settle!” Our executive matchmakers work with professional, successful singles and are focused on selective dating for professionals. We understand the need to find the perfect person. In reality no one is perfect and looking for the qualities that are the most important and then finding someone that fits into your life can make your life so much better.
For most people who married, had a family and ended up divorced, life is far more complicated than in their carefree single days of yesteryear. For starters, juggling work, family and a personal life can feel like a three-ring circus act. Finding the time to date–let alone develop a relationship–can prove challenging and downright impossible for some. If you have children why not date someone that also has a family? They will be much more accepting of your children and open to spending time with them than someone who’s in party mode and not into children.
Because getting out there again requires conscious effort, not to mention good chunks of time and energy, many men and women throw in the towel on ever meeting Mr. or Mrs. Right. They let themselves off the hook by saying “I’m really picky and would rather be alone than settle for less.” They spend too much time surfing through endless profiles online and then complain about everyone they meet not looking like their photo. No one looks exactly like their photos. Even most movie stars look like regular people in real life.
In reality, they are merely setting unreasonable standards for a mate.
Take Denise for example. She is a successful realtor who was married twice in her 20’s and 30’s and has been single for 20 years since. She puts in 80-hour weeks, works weekends and has her own business and properties to keep afloat. Her biggest problem is not meeting men but meeting ones she is physically attracted to and not “too old.” Yet she is 54, and the beau she just broke up with is at least 7 years her junior, tall, nice-looking, but…flat broke! our executive matchmaker explains, “Because all Denise cared about were the more shallow qualities of an individual, she lost track of the realistic qualities that make a relationship work – not good looks, but personality, drive, and the ability to keep up with both her and his lifestyle!” You also must make finding love a priority. No one has time for a relationship if they are working 80 hours a week. So cut back on work, take some time off to enjoy life and find love. Too many professional, successful singles in Southern CA work their lives away and don’t make time for relationships.
Next time you hear someone say those familiar words about not wanting to settle, feel free to give them good advice and a friendly reminder that love is about more than the perfect image. Give them a clue on how to recognize who and what a compatible partner for them looks and feels like. Tell them to give a nice person a second date. We’ve had so many marriages because people followed out advice.
Want us to do the job for you? Joining with an elite dating agency in Southern California like Elite Connections can rid the frustration of dating. Savvy single people are smart to seek help from executive matchmakers who can help them navigate the treacherous waters of singledom to meet the one who keeps evading them because they are venturing out without a map.
Signing up with a professional CA matchmaking service can help you to have the piece of mind knowing that you’ll be meeting quality people who have been screened properly. We meet, screen, check IDs and do background checks. 26 years of successful matchmaking says we are doing a lot right.
For more information about Elite Connections’ professional CA matchmaking agency call 1-800-923-4200 or email us at [email protected] to arrange a no obligation consultation with an elite executive matchmaker today.