It Is Wonderful to Take an Interest in a Man However No One Wants to Be Drilled As if They Are on a Job Interview. Personal Questions Such As “Why Did You Get Divorced,” “How Many Women Have You Been out With Since Your Break-Up”, “Do You Like Your Job?”, “What Do You Think of the Stock Market, How Are Your Stocks Doing,” “Do You Own a Home”, Are a Major Turn-Off and an Invasion of His Personal Space. It Is Important to Take an Interest and Ask Non-Threatening Questions Such As “Where Did You Grow up”. “Have You Seen Any Good Movies Lately”? “Do You Play Golf?”
A man wants to feel like he is with a feminine, playful, and fun lady. A woman who is stiff, uptight, and uses closed body language will not be appealing.
Women Being Serious and Business Like
A man wants to feel like he is with a feminine, playful, and fun lady. A woman who is stiff, uptight, and uses closed body language will not be appealing. Interacting in a serious and business like manner will only make your date feel like he is out with “one of the guys.” It is most important to be flirty, relaxed, and open with body language. After-all your date has probably been in his business mode all day and does not want to talk business.
Talking About Health Problems
There are women who think that sharing all their health problems with a man will “bond” them. This is the farthest from the truth. Making statements such as “I just had surgery and am in pain”, or “I was in a car accident 2 weeks ago.,” or “I just got back from the doctor and he told me I have a serious eye problem” will make a man feel like he is out with an senior citizen. Leave this kind of talk to your girlfriends. Bring up positive points about yourself and talk about hobbies, interests, movies, and travel.
Anyone who’s been single and dating for any time at all knows that connecting is full of short-circuits.
Take the example of a recent match-up in which a pair meets for coffee and end up in his car necking and groveling like two high school students.
Playing hard-to-get is a thing of the past and the wrong thing to do with men!
It went from hot and heavy with sparks flying to stone cold and going nowhere fast.
Women don’t give men enough encouragement, says matchmaking veteran Keri Roberts, of their interest or lack thereof. Some women feel that to be feminine they need to wait for the man to call.
But the message we, as matchmakers, want to get across to women, says Roberts, is that men need a “green light” in order to call and not risk being rejected. So if the woman is interested in someone she has a first date with, she needs to convey her interest–non-verbally and/or verbally–during the date so the man knows she’d love to hear from and see him again. Playing hard-to-get is a thing of the past and the wrong thing to do with men!
The other mistake women often make is giving mixed messages. She seems engaged, interested and even makes physical contact with him when she is not actually interested in him at all. That’s what you call a big tease, and it’s a no-no for women to lead a guy on.
It’s common courtesy for a woman to call and thank a man for the date and nice time together. However, some men find it tough to tell the difference between a woman who’s genuinely interested in him and one who is simply being polite..
So whether left in a voicemail or connecting by phone to say so, she should let him know–very clearly and succinctly–that she didn’t feel a special connection but wishes him all the best on his quest.