Dating Advice

Matchmaker’s Best Dating Advice: Tips for Men and Women

By Tiffney Thirlwell

Tiffney Thirlwell is a matchmaker at Elite Connections,  helping Los Angeles singles with her matchmaking advice.

My Singles Advice is Smile! And if not for the camera, then do it for the sake of your marriage. According to Yahoo! News, a recent study showed that those who flashed their pearly whites more often in photographs had a higher marital success rate compared to those frowning Debbie Downers.

Yet another factor to consider before tying the knot, the results indicated that those who frown in photos are five times more likely to divorce than people who smile.

Researchers gathered old college photos of people and rated their smile intensity from one to 10. None of the people who had ranked in the top 10 percent for smile strength had divorced, while one in four people who fell in the bottom portion had a marriage that had ended. The scoring was based on two muscles: the one that pulls up the mouth, and the muscle that creates the laugh lines around the eyes.

Yet another factor to consider before tying the knot, the results indicated that those who frown in photos are five times more likely to divorce than people who smile. Some reasons for this correlation are that smiling indicates a positive outlook on life, thus attracting fellow optimists, says Psychologist Matthew Hertenstein of DePauw University in Indiana. He also says that those who smile more frequently usually have a larger network of friends, which helps keep a marriage healthy. Interestingly, those who smile because the photographer says so may have a more obedient personality, therefore making a marriage easier.

Los Angeles singles often overlook these understated characteristics in people that actually mean much more than we could imagine. So next time you’re in the throes of new love, think of this information as a way to gauge your future together, and start asking to see those embarrassing baby pictures ASAP. If you are single and want my advice for finding love… Smile!

The Biggest Mistakes Men Make

Matchmaking dating tips for men By Elite matchmaker Rosemary Packard

One of elite’s matchmakers for over ten years, Rosemary Packard gives great singles advice.
Men are you wondering why women are not responding to your request for a second date? Here are some dating tips for why they might not be available to see you and my best matchmaking advice for finding love and dating women.

Have you ever tried to over impress your date with how wonderful you are? Telling women how much you make in high dollar figures, your large home, assets, people you know, everyone thinks you are wonderful, is a major turn-off. You may think this is flattering but most women do not. Being self absorbed, having a one way conversation about yourself, and not taking an interest in your date is not appealing.

Coming off desperate
It is nice to compliment a woman; after all she has gone out of her way to look nice for you. However overdoing it on the first date and repeatedly telling a woman “You are so pretty,” “I am so lucky to be out with you,” “I would love to take you to Hawaii in June,” “My mom would love to meet you,” are statements of desperation to” rope someone in”. Being too touchy feely without watching a woman’s body language is a big turn-off as well.

Phone calling
The best thing to do if she has agreed to go out again when calling is leave a message. Caller ID is very popular now and if she sees that you have called numerous amounts of times and hung up looks like an act of total desperation. Women do not want to feel that a man has tried to call over and over for them. The right thing to do is call once, leave a message and offer your phone number for a return call. She will respect you more.

Anger Problems
Road range is a real problem. Cursing drivers, being aggressive on the road, making statements about how others are driving is offensive. Getting angry at the waiter in a restaurant and complaining about your food and how terrible the service is ruins the evening for the other person. Making statements such as “Wow this dinner was expensive,” or asking your date to contribute to the meal will be your last date.