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Authors Sherri Murphy & Keri Roberts

" Matters Of The Heart" is a popular dating advice column, published in a South Bay publication for over nine years. The weekly column has questions from single readers, addressing dating dilemmas and relationship questions. Sherri Murphy, CEO of Elite Connections. and Keri Roberts, offer a decade of experience in the area of helping single men and women find life partners. Sherri and Keri each met her husband though personal matchmaking services and have dedicated themselves to helping others do the same.

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I DON'T WANT TO LOSE HIM!
Dear Keri and Sherri,

There's this guy from my church that I've been attracted to for a long time. He recently asked me out, and we've had at least 5 dates now. He told me he's been divorced for six months, that his wife left him for another man and that they have a two year-old daughter. If I'd known all that in the beginning, I doubt I'd have been interested in him at all. But now that I have feelings for him, I'm worried he's not over his ex and might go back to her. I've been under so much stress at work and with my own problems that listening to him about all his stuff is draining to me. I don't want to get in too deep with this guy. What should I do? Noel, Santa Monica

Dear Noel,

Simply let him know you're going through a stressful time of your own right now, making it all the more difficult for you to listen to all the drama going on with him. Say you think it's best for both of you to focus on yourselves and less on each other. Creating some distance in the relationship will prevent you from growing too attached. And this obviously means keeping sex out of the equation. Maintaining a platonic relationship will allow you to date others while waiting to see what happens between him and his ex. Relax and just be friends for a while It's definitely what he needs most right now.


FED UP WITH INTERNET DATING
Dear Sherri and Keri,
Please let me know how this works. I am finished with internet dating. I am a successful, attractive, divorced English woman having trouble finding anyone of quality on any of the dating sites.
Lonely in LA

Dear Lonely,

Yes, internet dating is starting to drive a lot of people crazy, and it's getting worse. It's just not the way to go for most people. We are an introduction service, providing personal matchmaking to busy, selective professionals throughout Los Angeles. Unlike on-line dating services, we work with clients one-on-one, getting to know them and what they're looking for in a partner. Call us, we'd love to meet you. It doesn't cost anything to come in and talk and see if our approach makes sense for you.


I WANT TO DATE MY FRIEND'S EX!
Dear Sherri and Keri,
My friend's ex-husband is the perfect man for me! I once mentioned to her that I'd love to go out with him, but she just laughed. They're still friends and we've all gone out to dinner before. But she's made no attempt to set us up. Should I just ask him if he'd like to go out?
Tara, 34, Sales, Manhattan Beach

Dear Tara,

Dating a friend's ex is very risky business! If you value your friendship with her at all, we say forget it and don't say another word to either of them about it. If she's not that great a friend, go ahead and ask him, but don't be surprised if he shies away from the sticky situation. If he's interested enough and not worried about repercussions, we say he'd have asked you out himself by now. Chances are, you're "barking up the wrong tree" and best off directing your efforts elsewhere.

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