Dating anywhere in the world can get difficult and tiresome. These Elite Connections matchmakers have been helping California singles for over twenty-three years. They’ve worked with singles from 21-80 and have been to their clients weddings for all ages in between.
By Elite Matchmakers Keri Roberts and Sherri Murphy
The key to attracting love is bidding farewell to your past. After a painful break-up, it takes time to mourn the loss, heal your heart and move on. While you might never stop loving that person who’s occupied a special place in your heart, mind and life for months or even years, letting go of him or her is the only way to make room for a new love.
It’s important to be aware of your tendency to either retreat in fear or jump into something new.
There are many approaches and processes for healing and releasing. Some seek therapy, others find guided imagery or meditation helpful and still others find comfort and solace in their Church or religious faith . Whatever works for you, do something constructive to release your anger, sadness, depression or hurt in a way that frees you from the shackles of those deep emotions. Only then are you ready and receptive to loving and being loved again.
Most of us know what it’s like to be with someone who’s not over an ex. Conversations inevitably turn to that person, and it’s never fun playing “second fiddle” or perhaps even a third wheel in the relationship. Bottom line is we don’t like the feeling, so why subject someone else to feeling that way around us? Do unto others as you would have others do unto you, as the saying goes!
It’s important to be aware of your tendency to either retreat in fear or jump into something new. Neither approach is healthy and both demonstrate a failure to make peace with the past. In either case, It’s a telltale sign that you have more healing and releasing to do.
So how do you know when you’ve truly healed, let go and become receptive to love? Well, for one, you will notice yourself talking, thinking and feeling less about the ex. You have taken time to be with yourself, reflect upon what it was that caused the relationship to fail and accept responsibility for the part you played in its demise.
Once emotions have given way to a sense of peace with yourself and the past relationship….Once self-esteem and self-worth have been restored and you begin to feel hopeful and worthy of loving and being loved, this is how and when you know it’s safe and healthy to proceed with a whole heart and renewed spirit. You are now ready and worthy to let love in, and what a glorious feeling that is.