One of Elite’s matchmakers for over ten years, Rosemary Packard gives great singles advice.
Men are you wondering why women are not responding to your request for a second date? Here are some dating tips for why they might not be available to see you and my best matchmaking advice for finding love and dating women.
Being self absorbed, having a one way conversation about yourself, and not taking an interest in your date is not appealing.
Have you ever tried to over impress your date with how wonderful you are? Telling women how much you make in high dollar figures, your large home, assets, people you know, everyone thinks you are wonderful, is a major turn-off. You may think this is flattering but most women do not. Being self absorbed, having a one way conversation about yourself, and not taking an interest in your date is not appealing.
Coming off desperate
It is nice to compliment a woman; after all she has gone out of her way to look nice for you. However overdoing it on the first date and repeatedly telling a woman “You are so pretty,” “I am so lucky to be out with you,” “I would love to take you to Hawaii in June,” “My mom would love to meet you,” are statements of desperation to” rope someone in”. Being too touchy feely without watching a woman’s body language is a big turn-off as well.
The best thing to do if she has agreed to go out again when calling is leave a message. Caller ID is very popular now and if she sees that you have called numerous amounts of times and hung up looks like an act of total desperation. Women do not want to feel that a man has tried to call over and over for them. The right thing to do is call once, leave a message and offer your phone number for a return call. She will respect you more.
Road range is a real problem. Cursing drivers, being aggressive on the road, making statements about how others are driving is offensive. Getting angry at the waiter in a restaurant and complaining about your food and how terrible the service is ruins the evening for the other person. Making statements such as “Wow this dinner was expensive,” or asking your date to contribute to the meal will be your last date.